The Confident Healer

Anthony Bourdain dreams, Psychic Faires and Akashic Record Readings of the departed souls

I had two interesting dreams about dead people, it’s so rare, maybe the last time was after my grandmother in Nepal passed away in 1996. I had a dream about Anthony Bourdain and my grandmother, and I received a reading from a new friend and colleague from the psychic faire at Starborn Healing and Wellness.  I then noticed synchronicity with a new soup I had to make and realized that Anthony Bourdain in my dream made me and my friend a vegetable puree/soup that he used to serve over polenta.  Oh yeah, it’s bizarre, and amazing at the same time because of what happened during my reading with Claire from the psychic faire.   Plus, I share more messages from them from opening my Akashic Records and the Akashic Records of Anthony and my Grandma.
It's just another day in the life of an intuitive healer!
Topics discussed in this episode:
-my dreams and having dead people visit me
-Anthony Bourdain came to me in a dream
-My Hajur-Ma (Grandmother) came to me in a dream the next night
-I worked the Psychic Faire and did a trade with someone that is a channel and medium
-Claire told me that they did visit me in my dream
-Claire and I helped Anthony Bourdain
-I gave myself an Akashic Record reading about both dreams with Anthony Bourdain and my Grandmother who is also deceased
-I read the results of opening my Akashic Records about my Grandma and Bourdain
-I read the messages from the Akashic Records of my Grandma and Bourdain
Shout-outs:Claire Blanc, Channel, Intuitive healing, Mediumship, Space Clearing IG: @Claire_blanc_art
Starborn Healing Wellness and Dance Center starbornhealing.com, IG: @starbornwellness  FB: @starbornwellness
About the Hostess:Sharmila Mali, in case you didn’t know,  is a Self-Love Expert, intuitive healer, Reiki Master Teacher, Akashic Records Reader (in addition to being a podcaster) and for the past 15 years or so, most of her clients have been women, who want to get over their ex. She also teaches intuitive energy healing and Reiki.
FB: @Intuitive-Consulting-with-Sharmila  IG: @sharmila_the_self_love_expert
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Intro and Outro Music: The Joker produced by Danya Vodovoz, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Iz2XCAr0rc0&list=PLq4r2IOXma9DSwR-JOVaCm3uqYrqwhV1x&index=26  Royalty Free Music.Produced and Edited by Sharmila Mali

How I Gained Confidence, Self-worth and Self-esteem

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I MISSED YOU!  The podcast is back for SEASON 2!!!!  I am starting out strong with a solocast about how inadvertently making The Confident Healer Podcast, help build my confidence as a healer in biznaaas, WAAAT? Yeah, check out the episode and I will tell you all the dirty-dirty about what it was like to live inside my head, filled with insecurities about not being good enough.
Can you relate?
For years, I tried to find a life preserver, and while they worked for a while nothing ever stuck in regards to feeling like I was worth it. I didn’t feel confident about myself in promoting my work and sometimes lacked confidence about my work as a healer, wondering if I was effective even though I my clients were experiencing breakthroughs. I would always just chalk it up to it being some kind of fluke and that I couldn’t get those results the next time.
How draining is that? It’s debilitating and I would put myself through so much mental and emotional anguish beating myself up for not being confident enough and not being good enough.
Topics discussed in this episode:
-lacking confidence in business
-low self-esteem and no sense of self-worth when it came to work
-Keslie’s KarmicSoul Reiki Level 1 class
-Usui giving me a gift during one of the attunements for level 1
-How exercising the muscle of regular publishing on social media and email marketing helped build confidence (to my delight)
-talking to other healers about how they built their confidence in business and “putting themselves out there”
-going over the 3 steps that helped me have sustainable confidence
About the Hostess:Sharmila Mali, in case you didn’t know,  is a Self-Love Expert, intuitive healer, Reiki Master Teacher, Akashic Records Reader (in addition to being a podcaster) and for the past 15 years or so, most of her clients have been women, who want to get over their ex. She also teaches intuitive energy healing and Reiki.
FB: @Intuitive-Consulting-with-Sharmila  IG: @sharmila_the_self_love_expert
Support the Confident Healer:-If you love the show, please leave me a review! www.theconfidenthealer.net/reviews/new-DONATE, become a patron and donate one time or monthly, it's easy, www.theconfidenthealer.net/support-Share the podcast with someone you know that will love it!
Intro and Outro Music: The Joker produced by Danya Vodovoz, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Iz2XCAr0rc0&list=PLq4r2IOXma9DSwR-JOVaCm3uqYrqwhV1x&index=26  Royalty Free MusicProduced and Edited by Sharmila Mali

Adrienne Shamszad on Singing and Building Self-Esteem Through Confidence

 
Meet Adrienne Shamzad, this week’s confident healer!
This was such a packed conversation about being an artist and sharing your voice with the world. This week’s guest is an amazing singer and I highly recommend you check out her live acoustic sets on her Patreon, then you will know why her music is so evocative, she has a way of taking your breath away.  We got into a deep conversation about the effects of late-stage capitalism and the effects it has on your self-esteem and confidence. We also talked about her life experiences with managing depression and anxiety, one of the things it has taught her is to appreciate what makes life so unique and to boldly sing her heart out. 
Topics discussed in this episode:
-Opportunities that showed up during the pandemic
-Created an online singing community with people sheltering from abusive relationships
-Adrienne started singing in childhood
-Mother was a folk singer
-Parents were supportive of Adrienne’s career choice
-Father’s conflict fueled Adrienne’s creativity
-Being a daughter of an immigrant and the conflict of pursuing music professionally
-Started studying Iranian music and incorporating it into her style
-Adrienne’s talks about confidence and self-esteem
-Suffers and manages depression and anxiety
-Making music versus the challenges of pursuing it professionally
-Late-stage capitalism and how we as a society tie money to our confidence and self-esteem
-Yoga and how it helps her singing v
About: Adrienne Shamzad is a singer-songwriter, culture preserver and teaching artist from Oakland, CA who combines American folk, soul and the blues with traditional Iranian music to tell the story of life. Her music centers around the pursuit of truth, building bridges between culture, and her mission is to offer her human family Love and connection through song, laughter, and storytelling.  
Contact Adrienne: adrienneshamszad.com www.patreon.com/adrienneshamszad instagram: @aidishams Facebook: Adrienne Shamszad Music Youtube: eyeamshamszad
 
About the Hostess:Sharmila Mali is the host of The Confident Healer podcast and is a Self-Love Expert and Reiki Master Teacher that works with womyn who want to get over their ex.
Support the Confident Healer:-If you love the show, please leave me a review! www.theconfidenthealer.net/reviews/new
-DONATE, become a patron and donate one time or monthly, it's easy, www.theconfidenthealer.net/support
-Share the podcast with someone you know that will love it!
Music: New Day by Tokyo Music Walker Stream & Download: https://fanlink.to/tmw_new_day​ Creative Commons — Attribution 3.0 Unported — CC BY 3.0, Tokyo Music Walker: https://soundcloud.com/user-356546060, Produced by Sharmila Mali, Edited by Chris Jessup

Chi Amaefule, Professional Matchmaker on Finding True Love

This was such an amazing conversation with Chi Amaefule! I have never met a professional matchmaker before and you will love her confidence and her beautiful heart.  She is shining with passion for bringing people who want true love and takes no shit if you aren’t aligned with who you say you are. I think whatever your perceptions about relationships, she will open your heart to a new paradigm, whether you are off the market or attached.
Chioma Amaefule better known as Chi is the CEO and Founder of NYA Love and Dating Services LLC. She is also a Certified Matchmaker and Dating Specialist who enjoys working with singles all over the US ages 28-68 who are single, entanglement-free, and serious about their search to find true love. Her goal is to continue helping others navigate through the ups and downs of dating and relationships. She is determined to provide a matchmaking and dating service that continues to help her community thrive in the dating world. She believes in a direct, straightforward, honest approach and has packages that are highly competitive in comparison to others in her industry. Nothing surprises her when it comes to matters of the heart. She has been nicknamed "The Love Genie" as she does her very best to make wishes come true. Her hope is to continue changing the world one heart at a time.
Contact Chi Amaefule:
nyaloveanddating.com
Facebook & Instagram: NYALoveByChi
Youtube: True Chats with Chi Love
About the Hostess:Sharmila Mali is the host of The Confident Healer podcast and is a Self-Love Expert and Reiki Master Teacher that works with womyn who want to get over their ex.
Support the Confident Healer:-If you love the show, please leave me a review! www.theconfidenthealer.net/reviews/new
-DONATE, become a patron and donate one time or monthly, it's easy, www.theconfidenthealer.net/support
-Share the podcast with someone you know that will love it!
Music: New Day by Tokyo Music Walker Stream & Download: https://fanlink.to/tmw_new_day​ Creative Commons — Attribution 3.0 Unported — CC BY 3.0, Tokyo Music Walker: https://soundcloud.com/user-356546060, Produced by Sharmila Mali, Edited by Chris Jessup

Leah Patterson :Passionate Living, Self-Acceptance and the Divine Feminine

 
This week’s guest is a powerhouse, and there is nothing that she can’t do! Leah Patterson possesses a joie de vivre that you can feel during the conversation.  Everything Leah has learned, she has given it back to her community and amazing clients to empower them to create more joy, self-acceptance and abundance.
She is a chemical engineer whose foray into holistic wellness and health started when she was working for the NIH studying ovarian cancer. This led her on an amazing trajectory of learning: herbalism, become a green witch of wise woman tradition, professional salsa dancer and teacher, created a sweat-proof mineral make-up line, and intuitive healing. She has quite an amazing story to tell and had her confidence nurtured by teachers, parents, and her love of learning. Fueled by her passions she had created so many amazing empowerment programs and skin products.  Let’s listen to how her boundless creativity fuels her energy.
About Leah Patterson: She is a transformation coach, holistic beauty and wellness mentor, professional salsa dance instructor, and business owner.  She is the founder of MOVE Makeup, a sweatproof and natural cosmetic line. She also is a host of Shop Black Live and is featured on local morning tv shows as a beauty expert.
 
Contact Leah Patterson:
info@leahpatterson.com
 www.leahpatterson.com
instagram.com/leahrpatterson
Facebook.com/leahrpatterson
Resources mentioned:
www.shopblacklive.com 
Watch Leah Host Shop Black Live on: www.youtube.com/watch?v=wXNbVxekljk
 
About the Hostess:Sharmila Mali is the host of The Confident Healer podcast and is a Self-Love Expert and Reiki Master Teacher that works with womyn who want to get over their ex.
Support the Confident Healer:-If you love the show, please leave me a review! www.theconfidenthealer.net/reviews/new
-DONATE, become a patron and donate one time or monthly, it's easy, www.theconfidenthealer.net/support
-Share the podcast with someone you know that will love it!
Music: New Day by Tokyo Music Walker Stream & Download: https://fanlink.to/tmw_new_day​ Creative Commons — Attribution 3.0 Unported — CC BY 3.0, Tokyo Music Walker: https://soundcloud.com/user-356546060, Produced and Edited by Chris Jessup and Sharmila Mali

Alexi on Confidence, Self-Trust and Getting Unstuck

Here is another fun and insightful interview with my friend and my business coach I used to work with Alexi Aldine.
I worked with her for 4 years to understand how to deal with my low self-worth when it came to business and putting myself out there to let people know about my work. It has been a journey (and still is!) and this is the main person that helped me love myself more and have more confidence and *have* self-worth.
She is funny, compassionate, and a wonderful coach. She will be your best cheerleader, and I am so grateful to have met her.  I had all the marketing tools (website, flyers) but I didn't believe in myself, and if you don't have that, you don't get very far in what you want to achieve. This is what Alexi teaches in her Dare to Be You Academy, a mix of getting through your blocks by taking bold steps in your business!
We have a great conversation about Scientific Hand Analysis and how your level of confidence shows up in your hands. This is not to say all is lost, my friend, no, not all, it is just learning why and how you get stuck in certain areas of your life, and how to get unstuck.
She had to look up the definition of confidence because it's not how she would describe herself, she was just “being herself” and doing things she set out to do.  It never occurred to her that she was being confident, as she puts it, "I'm just being me." 
Somehow, we end up talking about my journey and struggles with being a healer in business, and we use my hands as a mini sample scientific hand analysis reading.
We also talk about what is in her hands and where she gets stuck, all through the lens of Scientific Hand Analysis which is a modality she uses in her work.
So, let’s listen to what it is like to live life without doubt about yourself, and learn more about Hand Analysis with the great Alexi Aldine!
Topics discussed in this episode:
-What has the past been like for Alexi during the pandemic
-Alexi talks about where she gets stuck and how she gets unstuck
--Alexi mentions Scientific Hand Analysis
--Her childhood as a Filipina immigrant
--Her family thought children should be seen and not heard
--She talks about her ambitions and didn't see that as being confident
--She explains where her confidence comes from, that she is just being herself
--Explains Scientific Hand Analysis
--gives a mini hand analysis of Sharmila's hand
--Sharmila and Alexi discuss some of where Sharmila can get stuck, which are written in her hands
--It's all about self-acceptance, warts and all as they say
--Alexi analyzes her own hand in-depth
--Alexi talks about her free masterclass in May
 
Resources Mentioned:
www.askalexi.com where you can find out about her free masterclass in May.
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Killing_of_Ahmaud_Arbery
www.blacklivesmatter.com/survival-fund/
About the Guest: Alexi is a Certified Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), an Award-winning Speaker. She is certified in Theta Healing and Scientific Hand Analysis and has analyzed more than 2,200 hands. Alexi is the founder and creator of Dare2BU Academy where she supports intuitive empaths who want to live their Purpose and make a difference in the world to create their first online program. Alexi’s signature approach includes uncovering your Life Purpose blueprint which is found in your fingerprints and lines in your hands. She says, “within 30 seconds of looking at your hands I can tell you why you’re stuck and how to get you unstuck so you can share your gifts and get your business off the ground.” To find out how you can get your Life Purpose blueprint, go to www.askalexi.com
Contact Guest:www.askalexi.com
About the Hostess:Sharmila Mali is the host of The Confident Healer podcast and is a Self-Love Expert and Reiki Master Teacher that works with womyn who want to get over their ex.
Support the Confident Healer:-If you love the show, please leave me a review! www.theconfidenthealer.net/reviews/new
-DONATE, become a patron and donate one time or monthly, it's easy, www.theconfidenthealer.net/support
-Share the podcast with someone you know that will love it!
Music: New Day by Tokyo Music Walker Stream & Download: https://fanlink.to/tmw_new_day​ Creative Commons — Attribution 3.0 Unported — CC BY 3.0, Tokyo Music Walker: https://soundcloud.com/user-356546060, Produced and Edited by Sharmila Mali

The dance of stress & self-love practices

Ep 25 Solocast The dance of stress and self-love practices
In this week's episode, there are two different topics but the common denominator is self-care and self-love. Sometimes you think something isn't bothering you, or affecting you, but then you realize that it does affect you.  Can anyone relate? Dancing is my happy place, something that's part of my self-care routine and I share about the joy it brings me.    
Topics discussed in this episode:-Grandfather's knee and how the news affected me-Family accidents and how it affected my creativity flow-Giving yourself a break instead of forcing creativity-Dancing as my self-care routine-Hamsa Starborn Healing studio as my saving grace during the pandemic-Bollywood songs and how things come full circle-Dwarma---my upcoming dance show that I am in this coming Saturday, April 24
*UPDATE* the link will be left up, where you can donate to watch the replay, we the dancers who love Hamsa Studio thank you for all your support! The show WAS AMAAAAZEBALLS!!!
 
Resources mentioned: www.hamsaojai.com/dwaram-a-virtual-show.html  Donate to watch the replay!www.adhyatmik.org
 
About Sharmila:Sharmila Mali is the host of The Confident Healer podcast and is a Self-Love Expert and Reiki Master Teacher that works with womyn who want to get over their ex. 
Contact Sharmila:www.ojaireiki.comInsta: sharmila_the_self_love_expertFB: @IntuitiveConsultingwithSharmila
Support The Confident Healer:
-If you love the show, please leave me a review! www.theconfidenthealer.net/reviews/new-DONATE, become a patron and donate one time or monthly, it's easy, www.theconfidenthealer.net/support-Share the love with someone you love, www.theconfidenthealer.net
Music: New Day by Tokyo Music Walker Stream & Download: https://fanlink.to/tmw_new_day​ Creative Commons — Attribution 3.0 Unported — CC BY 3.0, Tokyo Music Walker: https://soundcloud.com/user-356546060, Produced and Edited by Sharmila Mali

Empowering South Asian Womyn in the workforce

Hello!!
We are back this week with an actual convo with someone else! YAAY! In today's episode, I bring back my 2nd guest that I had on the show last year, Deepa Pulipati,  to talk about empowering South Asian women and strengthening their leadership skills in the workforce. 
Deepa brings up some interesting facts she discovered in her research about South Asian women in the US corporate world, things that reflect our South Asian upbringing in a patriarchal society. It's complicated, but she and I have a great talk about the corporate world and how we can be agents of change to create a more harmonious place at work where productivity, creativity, and self-compassion create a bottom line of job satisfaction, better leadership, and a better product. 
Plus, she gives two very simple exercises to create more balance between the inner critic we all have and developing the inner champion we need more of.  We had such a great conversation and we are so excited about the South Asian Womyn's Leadership program!
Topics discussed in this episode:
-People tend to lump South Asian and SE Asian womyn together, but there are some unique differences between the 2 groups-Deepa and Sharmila are working together in the South Asian Womyn's Leadership Series, a bespoke 5-week program to provide South Asian (here on out S.A.) womyn with tools for advancement, build confidence, and learn how to share their stories amongst other important tools just to name a show-How do South Asian womyn advance in the workplace-Deepa observed her South Asian womyn clients and South Asian womyn associates that worked in felt like they didn't had a clear path to "get ahead" and a lack of representation of South Asian womyn mentors, or South Asian womyn in a leadership role-Deepa personally knows many South Asian womyn that are successful in South Asia and in America-There are very few studies and articles about South Asian womyn in the workplace in the United States      --why is this?-A study showed that womyn are not confrontational nor do they take risks at work-American corporate culture needs to change. We need to think differently and revamp the corporate structure-Solutions offered for clients in the SA Womyn's Leadership series, create community, i.e. "your ideal day" exercise, taking inventory throughout your day, focusing on all the tasks you did-What 3 things do you appreciate about yourself exercise
Resources mentioned: South Asian Womyn's Leadership series deepa@tulacoach.com for more infowww.nytimes.com/2019/03/21/business/indra-nooyi-corner-office-pepsi.html  Asian Amerian & Pacific Islanders stopaapihate.org
About the guest:Deepa Pulipati is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist. She is a certified Executive Coach, Certified Facilitator for Brené Brown workshops for Daring Greatly, Rising Strong and BOLD teen workshops. She also specializes in working with parents in custody conflicts and mediating their parenting agreements. And she is currently Adjunct Faculty at Antioch University in Santa Barbara, teaching in their Master of Clinical Psychology Program.
Contact Deepa:tulacoach.comdeepa@tulacoach.com
Support The Confident Healer:
-If you love the show, please leave me a review! www.theconfidenthealer.net/reviews/new-DONATE, become a patron and donate one time or monthly, it's easy, www.theconfidenthealer.net/support-Share the love with someone you love, www.theconfidenthealer.net
Music: New Day by Tokyo Music Walker Stream & Download: https://fanlink.to/tmw_new_day​ Creative Commons — Attribution 3.0 Unported — CC BY 3.0, Tokyo Music Walker: https://soundcloud.com/user-356546060, Produced and Edited by Sharmila Mali

Intuition, Motivation and A Lost Cell Phone

 
Intuition, Motivation and a lost cell phone by Sharmila Mali
Hello!
I am back with another solocast and this week's I talk about using your intuition as motivation. Sometimes, you ask for a little help from your intuitive friends, and luckily for me, they delivered! It's important to be able to listen to your intuition and take action on it, it can be a motivating factor of encouraging you to keep moving forward. And when you ask your friends to use their intuitive talents to help find a lost object, it's even more of a motivational boost when they tell you it's not lost. I could have easily brushed it off because I didn't lose my phone at home, the last place I used it was at my office. But I trusted the information. 
Topics discussed in this episode:
thanking my Indian listeners on gaana.com
I was interviewed on SXY podcast
losing my phone
a little help from my friends
using intuition as motivation
importance of trusting the information you get from intuition
Resources mentioned in this episode:NSFW! www.sxyradiance.com/podcasts Ep. 14 Loving Thy (SXY) Self with Sharmila Mali, an interview by my friend, Angelica Gutierrez for her podcast.
3 ways to support the show:
If you love the show, please leave me a review! www.theconfidenthealer.net/reviews/new
DONATE, become a patron and donate one time or monthly, it's easy, www.theconfidenthealer.net/support
Share the love with someone you love, www.theconfidenthealer.net
Or to contact me about getting over your ex, and moving in on confidence and self-love,  go to www.ojaireiki.com 
Music: New Day by Tokyo Music Walker Stream & Download: https://fanlink.to/tmw_new_day Creative Commons — Attribution 3.0 Unported — CC BY 3.0, Tokyo Music Walker: https://soundcloud.com/user-356546060Edited and produced by Sharmila Mali

Confidence in using your voice

Confidence in using your voice, a solocast by Sharmila Mali
Hello friends, I am back with another solocast and this week I dive a little deeper into my own self-confidence and the lack of self-confidence I felt most of my life when it came to career, work, and school.I was inspired by an Asian immigrant who spoke at the anti-asian hate vigil over the weekend to make this episode.
And I also talk about why I am late, once again putting out this podcast, for a hint, I am leaving you an obscure photo that you will just have to listen to find out what the photo is about.
Topics discussed in this episode:
handling the loss of my phone
Anti-Asian hate vigil that I attended
speaking up for the first time
my history with low self-confidence
confidence and using your voice
a surprise twist about my phone
Resources mentioned in this episode:Sonya Renee Taylor, an award-winning poet, activist, author and leader, www.sonyareneetaylor.com www.mass.gov/service-details/protections-against-hate-crimesvictimconnect.org/resources/national-hotlines
3 ways to support the show:If you love the show, please leave me a review! www.theconfidenthealer.net/reviews/newDONATE, become a patron and donate one time or monthly, it's easy, www.theconfidenthealer.net/supportShare the love with someone you love, www.theconfidenthealer.net
Or to contact me about getting over your ex, and moving in on confidence and self-love,  go to www.ojaireiki.com 
Music: New Day by Tokyo Music Walker Stream & Download: https://fanlink.to/tmw_new_day Creative Commons — Attribution 3.0 Unported — CC BY 3.0, Tokyo Music Walker: https://soundcloud.com/user-356546060
Edited and produced by Sharmila Mali